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While the Hollywood image of dying often features a loving family gathering around the deathbed, life often presents a very different reality. In a chapter in my book – entitled “One Big Happy Family” – I talk about some of the challenges families may face at this difficult time. I often say that each of us, when the faced of a parent, becomes an exaggerated version of ourselves with both our best and worst characteristics showing up in spades. As well, conflicts that might have occurred decades before may resurface as siblings vie for attention and recognition.

End of Life University

What do you do when a family (your own or a patient’s) is crumbling due to unhealed resentments and irreconcilable differences? Find out now.

conflictpodcast

In today’s episode I’ll share my best tips for helping families move through conflict toward resolution during stressful times like the death of a loved one. I’ve had lots of experience with this work during my years as a hospice doctor so be prepared for a longer-than-usual episode!

Announcements:

slide01My new course Step-by-Step Roadmap for End-of-Life Planning is almost ready for release (just a few days away as I record this!) The course is simple yet comprehensive and will help you examine your mindset, values, beliefs, and fears about death before you make decisions about your end-of-life healthcare. Go to eoluniversity.com/roadmap to learn more and sign up to be notified as soon as the course is released.

Sponsorship:

supportonpatreon-e1412764908776This podcast is sponsored through the EOLU donation page…

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http://passing-on.org/

I just found this PBS film narrated by Scott Simon on dying (primarily in America, but relevant to all). It includes some excellent resources as well.

 

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A great reminder of the importance of talking about what we want (and don’t want!) at the end of our lives.

http://montrealgazette.com/life/opinion-its-important-to-have-a-mandate-to-make-your-dying-wishes-known

(and my book is mentioned as a resource!)

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My family has been sharing a nasty flu bug for the past month of so. I have to admit that I was the first – but I like to think that I didn’t pass it on to my partner, who got sick a full week after me! Regardless of its origin, it’s now spread to my son-in-law, daughter, and grandchildren. Good times! And it’s not even time to get my flu shot yet!

I have to say that working in hospice has taught me a lot about patience in the face of the relatively minor illnesses we’ve had. Being with people whose illnesses are terminal certainly put things in perspective, even if it doesn’t stop me from whining occasionally!

I still vividly remember an experience I had at hospice a couple of years ago. I was helping a staff member to reposition a patient who had suffered from a neuro-muscular disease for several years and now was dying of cancer. I noted that the staff member seemed to have a bad cold and offered my commiseration. She replied, “I know, and I really don’t have time to be sick!”

After we had finished and the staff member had left the room, the resident said to me, with a strong note of anger in her voice, “Do you think I have time for this? I have no time.”

Her comment has stayed with me – in fact, it’s one of the things that led me to entitle my new book “I don’t  have time for this! A compassionate guide to caring for our parents and ourselves.

And I’ve thought about her, and all the people I’ve met, whose time has gone, in so many cases, far too soon.

 

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