Here’s a lovely article about the resilience and flexibility of hospice services and volunteers in the Kawartha Lakes region of Ontario. Now more than ever we need to find ways other than in-person to support others in need in our community.


Let’s do our best to reach out to neighbours, family members, friends, and people in your community, especially people who may be isolated or alone.

Be safe, be healthy, and enjoy the holidays!

The COVID-19 pandemic has caused over 700,000 deaths world-wide and resulted in millions of casualties. How has the pandemic changed our perceptions, attitudes, and policies towards death and dying? Has it led to a greater understanding and acceptance of death as a part of life? Or has it increased our fear of dying, as people witness the devastation COVID has wrought in long-term care homes and other congregate facilities? How might it lead to more open conversations about how we want to live and die?

These are some of the issues I discussed with Gaby Novoa of the Vanier Institute of the Family in an interview we did a couple of weeks ago. Here’s a link to that discussion.


How has COVID-19 impacted your experience of death and dying?



My latest video:

People in Ontario and Quebec have expressed shock and anger at the findings of the reports produced by the military personnel who have been deployed to long-term care homes in those provinces. I have watched the news coverage, read the Ontario report closely, and listened to the premiers and the Prime Minister.

One question that remains foremost in my mind: what can I do to make sure that the system of long-term care homes is completely overhauled? We don’t need tinkering, we don’t need military personnel staying on as substitute PSWs and orderlies.
The vast majority of deaths from COVID19 in Canada have happened in long-term care homes. People have died alone, without their families nearby, without adequate palliative care, and without attention and care. Something needs to happen NOW.
If you have thoughts about what needs to happen and, in particular, what we can do to effect change in this sector, please feel free to comment here, or to write me at katherine@katherinearnup.com
We owe it to our elders, to ourselves, and to the generations coming behind us.

What’s going to happen?

As restrictions because of COVID-19 begin to loosen across Canada, I wanted to share my latest video. I was asked to produce a series of short videos on the impact of COVID-19 on seniors. This video explores the possibilities and challenges we face today.

As I was on my daily constitutional today (amidst polar winds and swirling snow), I passed a lengthy line of men outside the new artisanal chocolate shop in my neighbourhood. As I moved onto the street to maintain physical distance between the shoppers and myself, I found myself thinking about all the mothers who will face Mother’s Day during this extraordinary pandemic, COVID-19.

I thought about mothers of children with disabilities who are without the essential service of the personal support workers who come to their home every day to help care for their children. I thought about homeless and under-housed women who are struggling to stay healthy and warm without the comforts of a home and family. I thought about the mothers and grandmothers who will spend Mother’s Day alone, unable to enjoy the physical delights of hugs and kisses even if they’re lucky enough to live in the same city or town. I thought of the essential health care workers – physicians, nurses, personal support workers and others – who will spend Mother’s Day on the front-lines of the battle against COVID-19 – separated from their families and risking their lives to save others. I thought of the mothers and grandmothers in long-term care facilities, who are unable to see or touch or talk with their daughters and sons and grandchildren.

For those women in long-term care facilities, their lives on this Mothers’ Day are particularly precarious. The pandemic has revealed the appalling conditions in long-term care homes across this country, where COVID-19 has killed so many elderly, vulnerable people. Reports of people dying alone, gasping for breath, calling out for help, are unbearably devastating, as families wait outside, hoping for news, for a glimpse of their loved ones at the window. These women are our mothers and grandmothers. Despite our best intentions, they may well be us in the not so distant future, no matter how well we have planned.

The plight of these women and men in long-time care reveals the tremendous lack of regard our society holds for the elderly. It is the result of decades of neglect, under-funding, and greed in a society that values expediency and money above human lives.

It is my hope on this Mother’s Day that we will wake up to the tragedy that is happening to our elders in long term care. I hope it will remind people of the invaluable work that is performed by personal support workers every single day. Perhaps it will force our governments to ensure that these workers receive a living wage commensurate with the essential human service that they perform. And I hope it will remind us all of the tremendous toll COVID-19 is taking on the most vulnerable people in our society.

This Mother’s Day I will remember my mother who died nearly 14 years ago, who was fortunate to be cared for in the final years of her life by personal support workers in a small facility where she was seen as a whole person in spite of the ravages of a brain aneurysm. I will think of how fortunate I am to see my daughter and grandchildren at a distance of 6 feet and my younger daughter and her 14 month old daughter via the wonders of technology.

And though it seems insignificant in the face of this pandemic, I will send donations to the services that support mothers so that they too can survive these challenging times.


Great article featuring my good friend (and guest speaker in my class many times, Liz Winkelaar)

I wanted to share the second video I’ve made for Abbotsford House – this one focusses on the impact of Covid-19 on people who are caring for someone in these challenging times, whether their loved one lives with them, or at a distance, or in a long-term care home or retirement residence.

(Remember, I’m new at this! So I don’t know how to change how my expression appears on the link! Suggestions welcome!

I wanted to share a video I’ve made at the request of the senior’s community centre where I take exercise classes. I’m new at this technology but I’m excited to be reaching out to support people during this extremely challenging time.


Since the impact of Covid-19 really began to be felt by most Canadians, as we engaged in social isolation and social distancing, as all of our activities (from exercise to meetings to concerts and playdates) have been cancelled, many of us have felt a sense of powerlessness. What can we do to support people who are suffering, when we can’t volunteer (in person), or even visit our elderly relatives and friends? When our grandchildren are off-limits for us, just when our adult children (their parents) could use our help. When the virus seems to lurk all around us, and we have no idea how to protect ourselves and the people we love.

One of the most distressing developments is the spread of Covid-19 in long-term care facilities and retirement residences. Elderly people are dying without their families by their sides. And in the face of a shortage of ventilators and protective equipment for health care workers, triage measures designed to save those most likely to survive the disease mean that elderly, vulnerable people may be left to die.

The article above offers and much-needed call for palliative care for those who are succumbing to the coronavirus. Dr. James Downer urges physicians and other health care measures to provide comfort measures including pain relief for all who could benefit from it.

These are challenging time for all of us. While we might not be on the front-lines of the fight against Covid-19, we are all subject to quarantine, social distancing, not to mention the challenges of parents trying to work at home while keeping their children occupied. We all need to rise to our best selves in these times – to reach out to those who might need help, might be lonely or afraid. I have to believe that there are actions we can take, however small, to make a difference.

More to come…




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